Denise: I’ve tended to draw the line this way:
My own attempts to live according to God’s law are borne of a healthy desire to obey.
Others’ attempts to motivate me to live according to God’s law are legalistic, as are my attempts to motivate others, as are any actions I think are somehow going to improve God’s view of me.
It’s a fuzzy line, since clearly I decide about new ways to obey because of the statements of other people, and I would hope my statements might someday help others, but I seem to be able to keep it pretty clear in my mind, I think, even if I spelled it out fuzzily.
Michael: And so we come once again, peripherally, to the idea of transactionalism. In this case, I have to say that some change should probably be expected in most people of a reasonable age, simply because we humans living in this temporal geo-spatial reality view this as a transactional thing, and from our perspective, we suddenly have a need (for ourselves, not for Him) to submit to God.
When a teen or adult is saved by God, and submits to Him, I would expect that some of those submitted things might need to go away, and others probably need to show up. However, I’m loathe to make any lists, because that way lies madness. I’ll just say that Paul seemed to heavily promote the idea that we should work daily to show more holiness, so I would probably expect something along those lines. Of course, while the lack of such evidence might be troubling (as per our ongoing discussion of James), few of us observe new believers with the kind of 24/7 observation that might be required to note real changes. In the end, God judges the heart, while we judge the outward appearance, or so I’ve read.
Children are more interesting. My children will, I hope, be raised with as accurate a picture as I can give them of a holy God who has mercifully saved them by His grace despite their own sinfulness. Knowing that (barely) when she is six, at what point am I going to call her converted? What sort of life change should I suspect? The second question is easier to answer: None. Or rather, just the normal ongoing series of life changes we all (hopefully) experience all the time, called maturity. I believe that justification is how God views me, not something that literally changes inside me, and with no literal internal change, why would I expect a reaction?
The first question – when am I going to call her converted. I could go with the probably-doctrinally-correct approach and just call her a child of the covenant for life. Her testimony: “I’m a third-generation believer, saved by God’s grace.” I note that Paul said about Timothy, “I am reminded of your sincere faith, a faith that dwelt first in your grandmother Lois and your mother Eunice and now, I am sure, dwells in you as well.” Someday, I’ll be sure about my children.
After talking about children, I have to revise my answer about adults, too. In short: I would hope to see an increased desire for the things of God, which are not necessarily the things of American Churchianity. But hey – I would hope to see that in most long-time Christians, too, including me.