James Dobson. The fact that I even have to write about him annoys me. O’d like to make my commitment to ignoring Dobson consistent, but this Spongebob crisis won’t leave me alone. Apparently, I have to say what I think about the man who speaks for me, which I don’t like, and has been maligned in the New York Times, which doesn’t move me at all, considering Dobson’s constant involvement in the culture war.
He’s a psychologist, which interests me slightly less than what color underwear my neighbor wore today. He’s written a bunch of books on parenting and marriage, containing everything from common sense to what sounds to me like backporch speculation. He has the most listened to radio program in the Christian world, a program that is sortof about families, and sortof about cultural issues and definately about building up the mailing list. He’s used his success to build an evangelical empire and is trying to change the culture. It’s a great country. He’s free to do as he chooses. And so am I.
He’s a genuine Christian. A fervent evangelist. A kind, classy man. He’s generous and has a ton of integrity. He seems to be a good father and husband. His financial honesty is unquestioned. He’s the most famous Nazarene I know. He is very compassionate, and I appreciate that. He’s helped a lot of people be better parents and happier as families, and that is great. Really great. He’s a straight talker, and that’s appreciated by me. He cares. He’s made the world better. I’m sure I would like him if we met.
He is obviously more distressed about some cultural issues than I am. He is more distressed about homosexuality in general than I am. He is really distressed that gays might be teaching my kids or trying to promote their agenda in my community. I appreciate the concern, but I don’t see it quite the way he does. Which is fine. I thought. He’s concerned about marriage amendments. He wants all three branches of the government to hear his constituency and appreciate the fervor of their votes and values. I can live with civil unions, and I don’t care if my doctor is gay or if my kid’s teacher is gay. It doesn’t interest me. My view of the Jesus and the Gospel doesn’t lead me to these cultural battles. As a citizen, I have political views, but they aren’t identical to Dobson’s.
I have my beliefs as a Christian. I try to live them and I try to communicate them in word and deed. I believe he is a Christian as well. I appreciate and affirm his right to lobby, raise money, make noise, protest, write Karl Rove and send millions of letters out with the phone number to call to make your congressman pee his pants in fear. I don’t think it works, and I don’t think such political involvments define discipleship as he does.
He is far from perfect. He can be a bit of a bully. Lots of people inside evangelicalism have said it. Among his peers in broadcasting, he is thought of as a man who will lead his way or make you give in and do it his way. He’s not a mean person, but just a guy who is bigger and more aggressive than the other kids and plays harder than the other kids sometimes want to play. He takes the game pretty seriously. He wants to win. That’s fine. I am not on his team, though I sometimes applaud if he plays well. End of metaphor.
He’s not in my church. He doesn’t share my confession. He’s not elected by me. I haven’t endorsed him. I haven’t bought his books or sent him money. I don’t owe him anything. Whatever he purports to “do” for Christians like me, I never asked him to do because I don’t agree with him some of the time.
So is he getting a bad deal on Spongebob? Well, you know why that is? Because he spends his time- all the time- bashing away at liberals, gays, Hollywood, Democrats and so forth on the radio and in print. So when they sense a Teletubby moment, they aren’t going to miss it. OK, I’m sorry he got misquoted, but he’s not just a big boy….he’s about the biggest boy in the game and the other side is going to stick it to him whenever they can. (The metaphor returns.) Does anyone think liberals and Democrats might believe Dr. Dobson has distorted their statements a few times on his radio show? Uh….hello?
Dobson wants hardball. He got hardball. I have little sympathy for him, because he means no more to me than the a million other preachers and Christian “leaders” who I don’t listen to, don’t support, don’t promote and don’t really care about. He wants to be the man who can walk in the Oval Office with 10 million names and starts talking about “my constituency.” I am not interested in that approach to Christian influence in politics, but I have no problem with those who do.
Dobson has spent a career telling people what I must think, do and support in my personal and political life to be a Biblical Christian and a real American. He regularly says that the end of all that is good and true has arrived if we don’t win the next vote. I never signed up for this service and I don’t want it. If he got blindsided by the press, well that’s the way they play the game in the big city, doc. I thought he knew that. I am surprised at how many Christians don’t.
Now, I will get email and comments shocked that I could say anything negative about this wonderful warrior, etc. Let me say it again: He doesn’t represent me. He isn’t my guy. I am not into his agenda. I see things differently. I don’t have to be a fan or a supporter. He’s a public figure and therefore subject to the miniscule opinions of people like me. It’s irritating, I know, but it’s why I blog :-)
For a look at what I think happens when Dobson and company dominate the cultural view of evangelicals, read the IM essay “Why do they hate us?”