My tenure as a believer could be described as a struggle between what I’ve learned to be true and what I prefer to believe. In counseling this is the struggle of counter-transference, the battle between what my client is actually like, and what I want them to be. I assume this is a factor in parenting, I know it’s a factor in marriage; it seems to me pretty much the case in theological studies/schools.

It’s kind of like the alcoholic that wants everyone to drink with him; he has a way that he prefers to view the world, and it affirms him every time he can get somebody to see the world the same way.